Actually, not having an official standard leads to a lot of opinions expressed by customers/playtesters being worth little. I go back to the playtest of the original gaim list, in which some testers were using stem and others using base. This leads to radically different utility in use of suicide fighters.
Here you have to very different scenarios...
If you remove the 'stem contact' flights as they contact, you are increasing the ability of of fighters to close and shoot, saturating AF. You will be able to force something through the AF screen, either your fighter attacks or you crewed missiles/pods.
If you don't remove them you are creating a situation where AF is much more effective, and combining crewed missile/pod attacks and fighters is difficult.
Ripple
Here you have to very different scenarios...
If you remove the 'stem contact' flights as they contact, you are increasing the ability of of fighters to close and shoot, saturating AF. You will be able to force something through the AF screen, either your fighter attacks or you crewed missiles/pods.
If you don't remove them you are creating a situation where AF is much more effective, and combining crewed missile/pod attacks and fighters is difficult.
Ripple