I gave up on reading the whole thread after about page 6, but I'm an avid reader of aviation litrature (one reccomendation for all - Fate is the Hunter by Earnest K Gann) and have been flown and taken flying lessons - if I could afford it I would certainly be a qualified pilot, but flying is an expensive hobby.
The key things in an aircraft that i have gleaned from talking to pilots and reading aviation books seem to be:
Agility
Speed
Stability
Reliability
Each pilot seems to place one above the other and obviously they have different priorities for different jobs (stable bombers, agile fighters, reliable transports and so on).
I don't see that how those categories are met, be it by thrusters, grav drives, wings, rotors, ducted fans, magic beans or the voices of angels - a good ship needs a combination of all four.
A grav drive does not automatically make a ship maneauverable, it just removes the need for wings that generate lift. My understanding of a grav drive is that it negates the mass of a vessel, and the thruster plates or some form of drives do the actuall moving around.
Wings do not automatically make a ship slower or less maneauverable - look at the pitts aerobatic planes or UCAV drones that can pull stupid ammounts of + and - G's.
A grav drive does allow the ship to hover, but you still WANT to maneauver - winning the fight is about hitting the other guy and not getting hit yourself - the best way to do that is to move fast enough that he can't track you, be it by moving outside of a missile engagement envelope, or changing the intercept angle or whatever. Sitting still and blazing away at each other is for battleships and tanks, not fighters and interceptors.
Just my thoughts.
G.