EDG said:
captainjack23 said:
If a teacher consistantly couldn't pitch his point to his target audience in a class, I'd like to think that he'd rethink his delivery.
Oh, I've rethought my delivery several times and restated it ad nauseam. The fact that it's always the same two or three people (who apparently have a history of problems with me) just don't seem to get it indicates that I'm dealing with "bad students" (to continue the teacher analogy) that just aren't worth dealing with anymore.
What is the one thing all the people who misunderstand, get pissy and have arguments with you over your opinions have in common ? Specifically, what is the one common factor in every argument you've had in every newsgroup, ever ?
I'd say it's other peoples' insistence on taking a discussion about a game personally and then accusing me of saying things I didn't say (and believe me I've had that done to me so many times I've lost count, even when I've been sure to be very clear about what I've said so as to avoid any kind of ambiguity that may be misinterpreted) and turning things into veiled (or obvious) personal attacks.
I know (because it's painfully transparent) that you're trying to bait me into saying "oh, *I'm* the common factor" but that really is not what the problem is here. Most people don't have a problem with me, or at least are intelligent enough to realise that I'm not deliberately trying to run rings around people or be a smartass at them (I hate it when people do that to me, so I certainly wouldn't do that with other people), but on every board there's always been a bunch of people who independently decide (probably because they share the same mindset) that they're going to misread and twist what I say regardless. I guess that's the problem with the internet - you get all sorts on it who have their own agendas and reasons for doing things and their own ways of interpreting what others say. I've learned the hard way to be very careful about what I say and I've been as clear as I can be in this discussion, but still people are hassling me for what I say instead of just discussing the points I'm making. And all I can say to them is "if you're that frustrated by what I say then it's better for you to just walk away, but I'm not attacking you personally".
The problem as always is that people insist on making it personal - instead of discussing the ideas I'm talking about, I get attacked personally for what I say, and that is the wrong way to carry out any discussion. I have not insulted anyone personally on this board, and I'm not about to start insulting anyone personally on this board. Meanwhile I've had insults and snarky comments thrown at me publicly and by PM by people (including yourself) who somehow have twisted what I've said into what they claim is something offensive to them. And any kind of reassurance that it's not offensive just gets met with more insults.
But of course, now I've said that I'm going to get a bunch of sarcastic posts from that crowd accusing me of being arrogant or being a martyr or whatever. To which I say "whatever" - some people just think what they want to think and there's not much I can do about it. So can we just skip the "witty retorts" and get back to discussing Traveller, perhaps?
Just talk about the ideas and keep the playground insults out of it, for crying out loud. There's no justification to make the snarky comments and throw the insults to make your point - I'm not doing that to anyone else so why do other people see fit to do so to me? We're here to talk about Traveller, not about individuals or to hurl insults at each other.
I read over this round of emails, and I find no insults or playground jibes.
I have in fact complimented you on your starsystem generation, and asked for, and been thankful for your input on stellar density. I was snarky earlier, yes, but that was wrong of me, and I'm past that now.
Yes, I suggested that you look at why you have repeatedly run into this problem, because by your own admission you have. So, I was trying to suggest that maybe if you always feel persecuted, perhaps, just perhaps, you are bringing something to the situation.
I mean, yes, you do have some good ideas, and yes, you are probably smarter and more educated than many on the board, possibly including myself, but you do seem to spend most of your time defending yourself, or counterattacking rather than presenting you work and ideas - I am struck by the quality of the star generation table, which I never knew you had actually produced, because you spend perhaps the majority of your time on this, and possibly other various boards defending your posting style, or attacking someone elses. It gets lost in the chaff, see ?
Yes, people do give you a hard to snarky to hostile time. I have, so have others. Its probably fair to note, though, that you also seem to be about the only person here who seems to constantly get the treatment you complain of, and from a variety of sources; and we have some very strident opinions here. Do you think that you cannot possibly be bringing something to the situation, or do you really believe that you are constantly posting on boards populated by the same set of over sensitive egotists and narcissists?
And if so,given the stress it seems to cause you, and the fact that you've stated publicly that you dislike T5 and CT and T4, why on earth are you constantly getting in these situations ?
It is possible that you are the only reasonable person in this thread, or the only intelligent person here, or the only reasonable person but honestly, do you really think that to be the case ? And no, I'm pretty sure that the "two or three" people here attacking you are unlikely to be the same ones who attacked you on the QLI boards, or on rpg.net; most of us, myself included, haven't said boo to you before this. It may be three or four here, but its a different three or four on each of the boards...so it does add up.
I'm honestly not sure why suggesting that you may have contributed something to your reputation and lack of welcome on several gaming groups is a playground insult. Nor do I think that I am unintelligent simply because I don't like your attitude. If I had to be honest, I think I'm unintelligent because I'm writing this instead of wrapping presents and getting to bed. Which means, I'm outta here...tonight.
and,oh, despite all else, Merry Christmas.